Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Going Private

WARNING: this will be wordy.

When I started this blog over two years ago it was to keep my friends and family up to date on the building of our business Coffee Buzz. I would post about once a week with updates of construction or exciting new developments. I poured my heart and soul in to Coffee Buzz and this blog reflected that. 

As time went on, this blog grew. It became more personal. I started sharing more about my life than what was just happening within Coffee Buzz's walls.

Then the unthinkable happened, strangers started to follow along and read about my life. I was truly baffled that anyone had any interest in what I had to say and what I was doing. This lead to me "meeting" some truly incredible people. I am so inspired and entertained and grateful for  the wondrous blog friends I have made. 

These past few months I have been let down by the blog world. I've seen this discussed on other blogs, so it's wonderful to know I am not alone in my feelings. What was once a place for me to speak my mind and share my life has become a popularity contest. A forum for people to brag about their expensive clothes and elaborate vacations is just not what I signed up for. 

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE understand that I am not talking about ALL of you! There are some really incredible blogs out there that include fashion and vacations and glamour without being pompous.

And, if this pisses you off then I apologize, but the good news for you is that I am going private

As of next week, Busy Bee will be available only to select readers. 

I also want to note that this decision isn't strictly because of the disappointment in other blogs but also because frankly I've felt creeped out. I don't know who is reading this and that just straight weirds me out. 

And finally, I don't want followers and comments to justify my life. I am the happiest I have ever been and am giddy about starting my life as a married woman and building a family with my husband. I want to be proud and excited to share my life without the criticism of the whole world, since clearly the whole world is reading my blog. 

I still plan on following along with all of you and your fabulous blogs. Let's face it, sitting at my desk with a cup of coffee and my blog-roll is the only appropriate way to start my morning. 

And, for those of you who still want to following along as I navigate this grown-up life, please leave a comment with your e-mail address {or if you're more private send me an e-mail with your info} so I can invite you once I make the switch. 

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to all of you have followed or commented or connected to me in some way. It really has been remarkable getting to know you, turning to you for advice and hearing your opinions. 

XOXOX, 

107 comments:

Kristen @ All In My Twenties said...

I BETTER BE INVITED MISSY!!!

Kelly said...

I'm sorry you've been let down by the blog world :-( But happy that you feel comfortable doing this!! I definitely want to keep reading :-) kellykmku@gmail.com

Café Moka said...

I want to keep reading you!
ilovecafemoka@ hotmail dot com

Michelle P said...

I know exactly what you mean. Some bloggers do seem extremely fake, and it's annoying.

JMB said...

DUDE, I better get an invite I have your necklace as collateral bahahaha
I could not agree with you MORE CHILD!! One can only hear about Tory Burch in so many breaths hahaha

LOVE YOU LONG TIME
Hope you are feeling better too

Syndal said...

Sorry you have felt this way about our blog world :( But you gotta do what you gotta do!
synfullydelicious@hotmail.com

Miss Chelsea said...

You better invite me chia

Hailey said...

You are not alone!! I actually quit blogging two months ago for a break but have not decided if I want to come back. I love blogging but it seems so many people are doing it all for the wrong reasons. I only read a select few now and it will probably stay like that!!

I hate you are going private but obviously I totally understand :)!

Aly said...

I'd love to keep reading!
apietros21@gmail.com!

Young and Fabulous said...

LOVE you Kristin!! If it weren't for blog land id have never met u virtually or in real life!! THREE MONTHS!

Can't agree more with what you're saying I fully fully fully agree!!! Blog for yourselves people! Sheesh!!

I best be a reader :-)

Xoxo

KAH said...

Love your blog, I'm sad to see you go. I totally understand about being shocked at people actually want to read about what you're doing, I feel that way too some time and I don't have nearly as many followers as you. Good luck!
KAH

ajs {of MN} said...

you blog is one of my favorites, i would love to continue reading ajsonnek@hotmail.com

btw- there have been a couple blogs that i had to stop reading b/c i was feeling like the posts were making me feel bad about what i have- i am SO happy with my life and where my family is today that it was a little bit sucky that a "blog" had me second guessing what makes me happy. so i totally get it!

Bunnie said...

I couldnt agree with you more. The was so well spoken

angela.almanza2@gmail.com

Lisa said...

I've missed you these past few days and would love to keep reading!

lortiz8285@hotmail.com

Sami said...

I'm a fairly new reader but I love your blog! I'm sad that you'll be going private but I understand where you are coming from. I hope I'll still be able to read :)

morrisseysamanthae@gmail.com

Bridget said...

I was wondering where you have been this past week. I totally understand why you are going private...sometimes I wonder if I should. My last year of blogging has been great and I have loved all the ladies I have gotten to know. I hope you will allow me to still follow along :) tegdirb2001@hotmail.com

Carolyn said...

Beebs better be added to this list... JUST saying. :) Love you friend.

Curly Girl Confessions said...

I would love to continue reading your blog!
julezajensen@gmail.com

Lia Joy said...

I completely understand! :) Hope I can continue to read your fabulous blog!

liajoymayes@gmail.com

sarah @ shades for {.e.v.e.r.y.} adventure said...

i totally understand how you feel, and although i've only commented on your blog a few times, i'm a loyal reader and would love to keep following along on this next chapter of your life :)

shcort@gmail.com

Ashley Canfield said...

Your blog truly is one of my favorites to read so if you feel comfortable sharing I would love to be on your list once you make the switch to private.
<3
Ashley
acanfield04@gmail.com

Stephanie said...

I BEST be invited. Biatch! ;)

Love, love.

stephandbeau@gmail.com

Stephanie said...

I BEST be invited. Biatch! ;)

Love, love.

stephandbeau@gmail.com

Lins said...

I would love to keep on reading your blog! I have a select few that I look forward to reading daily and yours is one of them! :)

linsw00@gmail.com

http://countryrootscityliving.blogspot.com/

The Bethke Bulletin said...

I love reading your blog and I think it's fun that we're both MN residents. If I didn't live near St. Cloud I would have been a regular at your coffee shop.

I would love to keep reading - but I never comment or blog, so I understand if I seem creepy. :-)

JenBethke1@gmail.com

Bre said...

Take me with you!!

Holly said...

Ahh I know what you mean. I have read this same thing on other blogs and its terrible :(

I'm a fairly new reader, but I do enjoy reading it, especially your beautiful wedding pictures.

If you'll have me, I'd love to continue reading :)

hollymarie7406@yahoo.com

Andrea said...

I have to give you so much credit for putting it all out there, there is no way that I could do that. As someone who has just gotten engaged, I have loved reading about your wedding planning, the wedding wrap up & have even borrowed some ideas for mine! I would love to keep following you and reading about being life as a newlywed, but the decision is totally up to you.

andrea.mendlow@gmail.com

Rachel said...

I'd like to keep following you!

tomcat.jack@gmail.com

Ashley said...

I have loved following your blog and agree that the blog world is changing. I guess I have never bothered getting caught up with the number of followers.. (hence why I have soo little) I'm not sure why people would want to blog about a false reality. I would hope to be included in your private blog! ashley.ballemATgmail.com

Lisa said...

I would like to continue enjoying your blog. An invite would be greatly appreciated. I can understand what you mean about popularity. There are many blogs I've stopped reading bc of it. I'm not a regular blogger but do enjoy it when I have time. :)
lnuckles@gmail.com

Ruthie Hart said...

I hope you let me continue to follow along, I've loved getting to know you girl!! xoxox ruthiehart1@gmail.com

It's A Love Story said...

I love reading your blog!

Please keep me?

faiaelizabeth@yahoo.com

It's A Love Story said...

I love reading your blog!

Please keep me?

faiaelizabeth@yahoo.com

Bekah Foley said...

I totally get what you're saying! Sometimes I sit here reading stuff and all I'm thinking is "I wonder how much debt this girl is in? I mean really...."

Raquel said...

I've loved reading your blog! I hope I can continue through your journey!

raquelalba90@gmail.com

Kelly Beatrice said...

I am a fairly new reader who has been working up the courage to restart my travel blog as an every day blog. Love thar we're from the same area and just bought a house with my boyfriend near your old coffee shop! So sad i missed it by months :-(. That was a rambly way of me saying I'd love to still follow!! kellybea14@gmail.com

Traci Breiland said...

Hi Kristin-

I've loved reading your blog and would love to continue reading. Traci.Breiland@gmail.com

Nicole said...

Hey girl! So I'm a fairly new reader, but your blog inspired me to start one of my own in the last week! I totally understand where you are coming from though, privacy issues and not knowing who was reading was keeping me from starting a blog myself. I'd really love to keep reading (and finally leave some comments!) but I totally understand if you're not comfortable with random people following. My email is nlindsey1@gmail.com

- Nicole

soon to be mrs. h said...

I completely understand your frustration for keeping your blog private. I was a decent blogger and it created too much personal drama so I haven't blogged since November. I have loved your blog since the Coffee Buzz days and hope to continue reading it as long as I can.
Thanks,
Katie

katie.a.luke@gmail.com

Jess@BeingMrsBeer said...

Keep me in! I so love keeping up with you!

jessicaleabeer@gmail.com

Dixie Bell Designs said...

I know what you mean, it is frustrating!

I'd love to keep reading your blog. My email is: dixiebelldesigns@gmail.com

Miss K said...

duh i want to follow!!!

lovelipstickandpearls@ymail.com

Dorothy Explor'r said...

i absolutely agree about blogs becoming a popularity contest and your decision to go private! :)

it is what you make of it... i appreciate your honesty.

just in case you were interested though - and this is why I like to blog - i'm currently hosting a gift exchange if you're interested :) the theme is "handmade." and my goal is to get connected with like spirits through a common interest.

also, there's a giveaway going on too... ending march 7th!

http://theymaysaythatimadreamer.blogspot.com/

dorothy

sgrana said...

Been reading your blog only for a few months, your stories and blog is so cute/funny, not to mention your wedding was gorgeous. I would love to continue reading your blog but i understand ... there some weird peeps out there!

Shelby!
Sgrana@mail.sfsu.edu

Corinne said...

I would love to be able to continue in following along on your journey!

Unknown said...

I would love to keep reading! I knew Carolyn back when she went to NDSU. When I started reading her blog I saw that she mentioned yours as well. I really enjoy reading and using all of your amazing recipes! :)

lindsey.n.baumgartner@gmail.com

Amber said...

never commented before but really enjoy your blog!

[[Starling said...

me, me! pick me! :-)

oh wait its not a contest?....

<3 SJ

Jenny said...

I am sorry you have been feeling down!

I have had to go private a couple of times so I completely understand!

I would still love to read you blog! sphjenny@gmail.com

Jenny said...

I am sorry you have been feeling down!

I have had to go private a couple of times so I completely understand!

I would still love to read you blog! sphjenny@gmail.com

Kelsey said...

I would love to keep following!
kkeifer10@gmail.com
I have seen this on a quit a few blogs lately and it's so dissapointing that it's not what it used to be!

dottie said...

I totally get this. I have been debating dumping mine lately, hence the lack of posts on my part.

People are practically begging for followers. Who cares! I won't even get into the fakeness that steams from some blogs too. Meh.

With that being said, I would love to continue reading.

dottie.englund@gmail.com

Sarah said...

Hey Kristin -

I have loved keeping up on your blog, it's my little bit of MN since I moved back to WI. I would love to keep reading.

s_szukalski@hotmail.com

Melissa said...

I guess you could say I'm sort of a lurker since I never comment, but i've enjoyed following your blog for a while now and I'd love to keep reading (I totally understand if you don't want to send me an invite, too) :) Take care! ~ Melissa, another Minneapolis girl, icarryyourheartblog (at) gmail.com

Emily said...

I'm a fairly new follower and don't comment often but I love your blog! I found you through some of the other blogs I follow and enjoy reading your wedding recaps and about your meal planning (it helps me come up with ideas for mine, haha). I'd love to continue reading your blog!

gottaloveememily@gmail.com

Minnesota Girl said...

I've loved following your journey and would love to see how it continues. My e-mail is girlfromlandof10kl@yahoo.com

Have a great day!

Theresa said...

Hi Kristin -
I found your blog through Katie's blog recently and have been reading your archives & then saw that you are going private...I have awesome timing I know. :) I would love to keep reading if possible!

lovelady0502@gmail.com

Katie said...

Sorry to hear this, but I totally understand. I def want to keep reading though!! katielaw7@gmail.com

Holly said...

It's sad you feel this way but I totally understand. Thanks for sharing your feelings and I hope to continue reading...if you'll allow me :)

hritter18@gmail.com

Carol {Everyday Delights} said...

I totally understand and would still love to follow along! everyday-delights@gmail.com

Julie said...

I didn't comment much before but have loved reading your blog and seeing your meal plans. I have recently really gotten into cooking and your plans help me out a lot! I understand what you mean about the "creepiness" of the blog world sometimes and I completely agree. Don't feel obligated but I would love, love, LOVE to keep reading!!

Julie
jvanwallaghen232@gmail.com

Brittany said...

Love following your blog!! I must say it is my go to for good reads!

-Brittany

blwalker15@gmail.com

Molly said...

I love your blog and hope that I can still follow along! Molly (mollybyrne@comcast.net)

Kristin said...

Totally understand but totally want to keep reading :)
strlit023@aol.com

Bride-onicles said...

Keep me in the loop! blogzillabride@gmail.com

NICOLE said...

I would love to continue to follow your blog =) nicole42386@gmail.com

I have one too, but very rarely update it!

NICOLE said...

I would love to continue to follow your blog =) nicole42386@gmail.com

I have one too, but very rarely update it!

Everyday Appetite said...

i love your blog! I can totally relate to a lot of the things that you write about! would love to keep reading..
amanda.m.rosing@gmail.com

Amber said...

Im fairly new to your blog, and would LOVE to keep reading! But I completely understand the need to go private.

My email is: amberngoodin@gmail.com

Hope you have a great day!

Liesl said...

I have truly enjoyed following your journey...from when I first found you and you were opening the coffee shop in the beginning stages all the way up until your beautiful wedding and it has been lovely! :)

I completely understand your thoughts and how you feel about it all, and think it is so important that you follow your heart and do what is best for you! Know that I would love to continue reading (Liesl@LieslEhardt.com) about your journey and adventures, but also that I will understand if not because I know we don't know each other personally!

I wish you nothing but the best, and truly have enjoyed your blog since I first stumbled upon it! Sending lots of smiles your way for wonderful things ahead for you on your new path! :)

JJ said...

I would love to follow your blog, once you go private. jenniferpetrie32@gmail.com.

have a good day love~

Kim Morris said...

Love your blog. I don't have a blog so I am not sure if I can be invited to join or if you have to have a blog. But, if not, have read your blog for some time and always enjoy it.

My email is kimmorriscpa@gmail.com

Thanks,
Kim

Anonymous said...

Hi- I don't think my last comment posted before but I would love to keep reading.

I especially love the menu planning you do with the "Beebs".

Lindsay

My e-mail: lindsay.babble@gmail.com

Katie said...

I want to keep reading!! I love reading your recipes :)
Katie Hall
Katherine.b.hall@gmail.com

J and A said...

Totally understand Kristin. I'd love to keep reading.
justinandalison@gmail.com
:)

amanda* said...

I totally agree with you!
This is a great idea!

I read your blog daily, also at my desk with coffee {at work haha}

amanda.smith507@gmail.com
or
http://vodka-caviar.blogspot.com

Good luck girl!

Nicole P said...

I want to keep reading too! nicolezinniel@gmail.com :)

Heather said...

Kristin,

I completely admire your post! I discovered your blog about a week before your wedding, and have loved following you since then. As a fellow newlywed, I love reading your blog, and your weekly meal planning has REALLY REALLY helped me! I hope you'll add me so i can continue reading.

Have a wonderful day!

~Kelli Marie said...

I'd love to still follow along! Love your stories and recipes!

~Kelli
kellimdodd@gmail.com

Brittany Taylor said...

I want to keep reading also :)

Ashley Marie said...

I completely understand - I have thought about all of these same points. for now - i'll stay public but I have enjoyed every moment of reading your blog since finding it right after you got engaged. It has been so much fun - I would LOVE to keep following =)

lifeaftertheaisle@gmail.com

Megan said...

I really hope that I never feel like this with mine. I can completely understand where you are coming from though. I really hope that you will allow me to keep reading your blog. I believe my email is on my blogger account!

Stephanie Ann said...

I would love to follow along with your blog. It has been fun watching you go through the wedding planning to now recapping. I was doing it right along with you!

stephweis at gmail dot com

Thanks!

P!nky said...

I found your blog from your BEEB miss Carolyn and must say I enjoy reading. I know I'm new to the party and there are others who will take precident, but I would be honored to be able to keep reading.

And I think its awesome you are following what your heart tells you too. You do you and don't let anyone make you feel you should be doing otherwise.

have a great day

pinkpersistence@gmail.com

Lindsay said...

lhamilton414@gmail.com

Meagan said...

I would love to keep reading your blog :)

megz_225@hotmail.com

Megan said...

Hey kristin,

I've loved following along with you and Jason and would enjoy reading in the future. Us TC girls gotta stick together right ;) megan.sieberg@gmail.com

Caroline said...

I hope I make the cut! xoxo

Britni Kesselring said...

Of course I still want to follow!! PS- We all need to hang out with the Starlings!

britni.burke@gmail.com

Kristin said...

I'd like to keep following you!
Ktaylorr@gmail.com

Mrs. Bear said...

I hate the competition. And I love you. The end. I am glad we are blog friends :-)

Nicole-Lynn said...

Oh gosh girl, I totally understand what you mean. I have felt that way a LOT. There are still people I follow that sometimes they just make me so uncomfortable b/c I often feel like it is a popularity contest or something.. not what I signed up for either! So I'm happy I'm still able to follow you! I love reading about your life and updates. I'm sorry it has taken me so long to get caught up with you. I feel like a bad blog friend! :( Please forgive me! lol

Love ya girlie!

Jessica said...

Completely understandable!! Enjoy life, don't let the petty blogs/twitter/comments bring you down. Do you. :)

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